What to Look for in an Affirming Therapist for LGBTQ2S+ Individuals
Why LGBTQ2S+ Affirming Therapy is Important
As an LGBTQ2S+ individual, you may face challenges that others don’t. These challenges, such as discrimination, societal stigma, or rejection from family and friends, can contribute to feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression. Studies show that LGBTQ2S+ individuals are at a higher risk for mental health issues, and that discrimination plays a significant role in these struggles.
In fact, a 2019 study by the Canadian Mental Health Association found that 1 in 3 LGBTQ2S+ Canadians have considered suicide at some point in their lives, with young LGBTQ2S+ individuals being particularly vulnerable.
Having access to a therapist who not only understands these challenges but also affirms your identity is crucial for addressing these specific concerns. Affirming care allows you to feel safe and heard, giving you the space to explore and work through issues such as:
Navigating relationships, both romantic and platonic, within or outside the LGBTQ2S+ community
Addressing experiences of discrimination, homophobia, or transphobia
Exploring gender identity and sexual orientation
Managing mental health struggles like depression, anxiety, or PTSD related to minority stress
Without LGBTQ2S+ affirming care, your experiences may not be fully understood or validated, which can lead to a lack of trust in the therapeutic process and hinder your healing.
Key Traits of an LGBTQ+ Affirming Psychologist
Clinicians and clients alike need to consider what it really means to be an affirming psychologist. What does that look like in terms of physical space, actions, language, beliefs, values and even expectations. Having a psychologist who has spent time asking themselves hard questions and holding themselves to a meaningful response is the first step in being a truly affirming psychologist. A willingness and openness to discuss, consider and grow with you as a client is also important.
Many psychologists, including Shivani, offer complimentary consultations where some of these dialogues can begin. You can ask about active allyship, inclusivity training, and understanding of intersectionality.
The Importance of a Safe and Welcoming Space
LGBTQ2S+ individuals often experience discrimination or a lack of understanding in healthcare and mental health settings. Unfortunately, this can create a barrier to seeking help in the first place. Feeling safe and respected by your psychologist is essential for healing, especially when sharing deeply personal aspects of your identity.
LGBTQ2S+ affirming care goes beyond acceptance—it means creating an environment where you feel seen, valued, and supported. It involves:
Using your correct name and pronouns without hesitation or error
Acknowledging and respecting your sexual orientation and gender identity
Avoiding assumptions based on stereotypes and listening to your unique story
Recognizing the importance of your experiences within the LGBTQ2S+ community
When you access LGBTQ2S+ affirming care, you can feel confident that your therapist will work with you to understand and support you, without judgment or prejudice.
How to Find an Affirming Therapist in Calgary
Finding the right therapist is key to feeling supported in your mental health journey. Here are some tips to help you find the care you deserve:
Look for Specific Expertise in LGBTQ2S+ Issues
When searching for a therapist, look for someone who has experience or specialized training in working with LGBTQ2S+ individuals. This may include:
Knowledge of gender identity, sexual orientation, and the unique struggles faced by LGBTQ2S+ people
Experience with gender-affirming care for transgender or non-binary clients
Training in trauma-informed care, especially if you've experienced discrimination, violence, or abuse
You can often find this information in therapists’ profiles or websites, or by asking during an initial consultation.
Ask About Their Affirming Practices
During your first conversation with a psychologist, ask them about their approach to working with LGBTQ2S+ clients. Some questions to consider:
How do you ensure that your practice is inclusive and affirming?
What’s your experience working with LGBTQ2S+ clients, particularly around issues like gender identity or coming out?
Are you comfortable using clients’ chosen names and pronouns?
A therapist who is truly affirming will not be defensive or uncomfortable when you ask these questions—they should be open and eager to share their approach to ensuring a safe and supportive environment.
Consider Logistics and Comfort
Location, availability, and how comfortable you feel with a therapist are important factors. Many therapists in Calgary offer both in-person and virtual therapy sessions, which can be especially helpful if you’re looking for privacy and flexibility.
Take the time to assess whether you feel comfortable with the therapist in your first meeting. Trust your instincts—finding someone with whom you feel safe and understood is key to a successful therapeutic relationship.
Conclusion
Navigating mental health as an LGBTQ2S+ individual can feel overwhelming, but finding an affirming therapist can make all the difference. When you seek out a therapist who understands and respects your identity, you’re giving yourself the opportunity to heal, grow, and thrive.
If you’re in Calgary and looking for LGBTQ2S+ affirming care, we are here to support you. Our practice is committed to providing a safe, inclusive space where your identity is celebrated, and your mental health concerns are addressed with compassion and expertise. Reach out today to schedule a consultation and take the first step towards feeling seen, heard, and supported.